top of page


Men die silently. Women die crying. Relationships are built with determination, conviction, decision and the grace of God. There are so many silent “deaths” among men and crying “deaths” among women in relationships today. So many are enduring their relationships instead of enjoying. Although, there is a place for endurance, catalogues full of misunderstanding have led to anger that birth retaliation in many relationships. To retaliate means to hit back; it is to do something bad to someone because they did something bad to you; it also means to revenge. Retaliation elongates the circle of violence, evil and destroys family unity; it brings an end to a healthy relationship.

In our message on the Spirit of Absalom we saw how retaliation and violence crept into David’s home. It led to the death of Amnon, Absalom and a group of rebels who had joined Absalom.

“And Absalom spake unto his brother Amnon neither good nor bad: for Absalom hated Amnon, because he had forced his sister Tamar. Now Absalom had commanded his servants, saying, Mark ye now when Amnon's heart is merry with wine, and when I say unto you, Smite Amnon; then kill him, fear not: have not I commanded you? be courageous, and be valiant.” 2 Samuel 13:22,28

The place of obedience to the Word of God is key if any relationship or family will experience Heaven on Earth. The Word of God in today’s devotional is instructively clear, “Never retaliate when someone treats you wrongly…” At some point, because, both parties in a relationship are not perfect, one of you might treat yourselves wrongly, when this happens, NEVER RETALIATE, respond by speaking blessing; be calm about the situation; if you consider it severe, then both of you should consult your spiritual authority. Retaliation can make you do the evil you never planned just like what Absalom did to Amnon. It will bring the worse out of you. To stop the evil in any relationship, respond with good. Where retaliation stops, that is where the circle of violence and evil will end.


My Father my God, I ask that You give me a clean heart, a heart that loves and forgives quickly. I cease from anger and retaliation in the name of Jesus Christ.

I pray for peace in my home, peace in my relationship and peace in my family in the name of Jesus Christ.


Now, take some time and pray in the Holy Ghost, asking the Lord to show you anyone you need to forgive, pray for them and forgive them according to Mark 11:25 “But if ye do not forgive, neither will your Father which is in heaven forgive your trespasses.”


bottom of page